10 Life Lessons I learned from Oprah

I sit here at my desk this morning trying to get to work, but after my evening with Oprah last night, I am having trouble concentrating.  I attended the same event in Edmonton back in November, but last night in Saskatoon was different.  The energy in the room was palpable – it was transforming, and this time around I was able to capture the deeper messages from her words.  I could just about feel the protected layers of everyone in attendance start to get peeled back and exposed.  There was a sense of liberation throughout that made us all connected and empowered, and encouraged to ‘turn up the volume’.  I found myself getting choked up a few times and I wondered where the emotion was coming from – and I discovered that it was because there were layers of validation that yes, I am doing a lot of things right, even though I question it at every step.  There was also an awakening – that only when I reach a place of surrender, as hard as it is, will I be able to allow God and all of the Source energy do what it needs to do.

There were key messages she touched on, and I wanted to capture them in this post.  My intention is to share what I absorbed, and hope that through her message, I can help the waves of awareness linger for a bit longer.

1. Surrender is necessary for the ALLOWING of the force field, that I call God, to pull me in the direction of my dreams.  Oprah shared with us the hilarious story (my favorite one) of going to the ‘fat farm’.  She talks about how she had to surrender her deep desire that she had for the role in The Color Purple.  This moment was profound for me – the biggest moment of the entire talk, because I knew in that moment that this is what I need to do in my own life.  I need to stop trying to control the outcome with the illusion of safety and predictability.  In the end surrender is the only option, because without that we live in a false sense of security and deny all of the greatness that God has in store for us.  Attached is a link where Faith Hills sings the song.  Powerful stuff.   http://video.search.yahoo.com/video/play;_ylt=A2KLqICwPGxRkhwAnCz7w8QF;_ylu=X3oDMTBvcXNvNnBqBHNlYwNzcgRzbGsDdmlkBHZ0aWQDVjEzMw–?p=song+-+i+surrender+all+oprah+surrender+song&vid=bc8f80e5277e8a6ad6dc97a71a8f00d7&l=7%3A18&turl=http%3A%2F%2Fts2.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DV.5030906611368141%26pid%3D15.1&rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D12GPrKP_34Q&tit=surrender+all.wmv&c=0&sigr=11anvmr4s&age=0&&tt=b

2.  Stay in your own lane – you will never change anyone, and you can’t get anyone to do what you want to do, so STAY IN YOUR LANE!!  Focus on your own journey and quit interfering with the journey of those around you.

3. Listen to the Whispers and don’t wait for pebbles or bricks, and certainly don’t wait for the earthquake disaster mode.  I have known this to be true for awhile, and I try to be aware of the whispers and listen to them when they arrive.  For me the trick is to know when it’s a whisper from Source, and when its my ego trying to manipulate me.  One thing I know for certain is that I have been getting whispered to for awhile in regards to the direction of my business/work, and I have not been a very attentive listener.  I think the pebbles are starting to come to me, and it’s time to act before I’m dodging bricks.

4. Find the Flow in your life and move with it, rather than against it.  Oprah talked about finding components in your life that have ease.  Not that it’s easy per-say, but rather a sense of ease.  When you can feel life pulling you, urging you,…and calling you,…it’s time to allow yourself to move towards your purpose, rather than against.

5. The Threads of Purpose – Your purpose is not a huge revelation.  It is not a glaring ‘AH-HA’ for most people, but rather it is a subtle whisper on the edge of glory – where the thread of your life, the thread that weaves together your story brings you to where you are today.  Your path is not an accident, it is part of your journey and your highest purpose.  If you use it as a classroom to learn, and a vessel to guide you, and the allowing for all that Source has in store for you,…that is where your essence,..your purpose resides.

6. Fame is a magnifying glass of who you already are.  This was profound for me.  Oprah gave this nugget of insight that only she could provide.  She shared that we are all the same – and that she is no different than anyone else, other than more people know her name.  If you were a jerk before you became famous, the magnifying glass will reveal a bigger side of all that already existed.  If you are loving and kind – fame will magnify and bring forth more of that.  My ah-ha moment came this morning when thinking about this  – Fame therefore should never be feared unless you are scared of what the magnifying glass will reveal.  To that I say,…bring it on!! 🙂

7. The power of Intention – Oprah required her producers to come to her with their intention – as I am sure she still expects.  I learned this years ago after listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s ‘The Power of Intention” book – I listened to that audio book at least 3 times, and it transformed me.  I practice this before I walk into any meeting.  I take my book and write down my intentions for the meeting before I enter the energy and space of the meeting.  It is profound and transforms how I approach difficult situations, brings grace to the table, and creates better outcomes.  It was great to hear how this principal has served her in her life.

8.  To Live in Alignment, You will make some people unhappy – that was an ‘AMEN’ moment for me!!  Oprah gave it a twist that I had never thought about before.  She said that people see you in relation to the expectations they have for you – and it is in direction relation to the expectations that they have for themselves.  When you start to break that ‘picture’ or set of expectations, you are going to make people uncomfortable and unhappy.  I have been involved in a project over the past few years that has made many people mad at me.  I have wanted to quit so many times, but each time I kept going because I had to follow that inner voice that guided me to stay true to what I believe.  I realized last night that my path is independent of other people’s comfort level with what I am about to do.  When Rosa Parks decided to take that seat on the bus, she was not doing it to make people unhappy, she was simply doing it because it was the right thing for her to do.  At the end of our days our purpose – our impact – is not measured by how many people we pleased, but rather the authentic contribution we had on the world around us.  Sometimes the ‘impact’ is measured in love and motivation, and sometimes the ‘impact’ is measured in discomfort and change.  Oh dear,…I still have work to do in this area, but Oprah provided me with another layer of clarity to help me get to the next level.

9. Gratitude as a Practice – She shared with us the impact that gratitude has had on her life.  Not just the thought of gratitude, but the PRACTICE of gratitude that includes writing it down.  I go to bed each night and think about all that I am grateful for and usually fall asleep during the process, but I realize that I have not experienced its full effect since I’m skipping the step of writing it down.  Today I am pulling out a journal will will start the active PRACTICE of capturing all that I am grateful for.  I also think that it will be a great treasure for my kids when I have crossed over – to know the small aspects of who they are that I am so grateful for.

10.  I couldn’t conclude this piece without including the poem that moved many of us to tears, and the words that she closed her speech with.

Love After Love

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the others welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

Derek Walcott

Oprah is just like anyone else – she is a spirit having a human experience – just as we all are.  God has been whispering to her since she was 4 years old, and she listened.  God has used her as a vessel for a new awakening, and through her God speaks to us.  Are we to be observers and say ‘it’s easy to say that when you have money’?  Are we to passively say ‘it’s nice for her, but my calling is to pay my bills at the end of the month and tend to my kids?   If we do that, her words evaporate into nothingness.  She has been called, from the most unlikely set of circumstances, to show us that we can all rise above our circumstances.  If you get caught up on comparing balance sheets and income statements, you have missed the whole point.  Get still,….really still,…have the courage to ask the question,…and then listen to the whispers, really listen, and be willing to accept the answer.

Last night as I watched her I could feel her contribution, so I sat in my seat, one in 13000, and I sent her white light of love and gratitude.  I came across this just this morning, and for all that she gave us last night, I want to send this to her.

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